Lead: Your life is ultimately open or cracked, it is what you choose to do, how to do it!

     Recently, in many people, I have seen many shadows of "fear of returning to the family". The reason why he didn't want to go home was that he didn't have a face to go back. He used to be the pride of his parents. He was one of the few college students in the village, but now he is in his early thirties. There are no bricks, no wives, no success. Every time I go home, relatives and neighbors will always urge to buy a house, get married, have children, and come back when they can't get together. Although there is no malice, these words make him blush, and there is nothing wrong with it. The house is so easy to buy. The object can be said, so in the past two years he has not been able to go back in the name of overtime. The arrogant who once left home, now wandering away from the wandering, life is not easy, pride is not, homesick and want to escape.

    I have read such a sentence in an article: those who are afraid of returning, who are not willing to participate in class reunion, want to stay away from acquaintances, either life is open, or life is cracked, and the vast majority of people It belongs to the latter.

    I agree with this. Therefore, I also want to take the opportunity to talk about it. Is it true that a person’s life is open or cracked? This question, I seriously thought about it, I think there are three main points.

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Choice is greater than effort: too particular and too will not work

    There is never a shortage of hard work in this world, but there are still some people who are not doing well. Many times, if you don't work hard, you will have good results, because the choice is often greater than the effort. Therefore, some people will say that life is critical, and often it is a few steps. If you choose the right one, you will often take a lot of detours and have a completely different life. The old saying goes, the man is afraid of getting into the wrong line, the woman is afraid of marrying the wrong man, the choice of work and marriage is very important, both of which occupy almost our entire life. Many people are not not hard enough, nor are they not talented enough. They are not right choices. The industry they enter is not good. The company they are in does not work. The people who follow are not reliable. This is not to find reasons for the mediocrity of some people. This is the case, so there will be a saying that trees are dying and people are moving.

    So how do you move your nest? When do you move your nest? My advice is: don't be too particular, don't be too arrogant. "Don't be too particular about it" has two main aspects: First, don't think about going to the sky, not where to go; second, don't always think too good, no job is not wronged, not hard. There are two aspects to "Don't be too much": First, don't work for work, don't consider industry prospects, personal promotion and development; second, don't stay in a nest and don't go away. This is the case, as is love and marriage.

    There are no perfect people in the world, so don't be too picky, but don't be too arrogant. It's not desirable to ask only to be alive, to watch nothing else, to marry for marriage. To some extent, marriage and love can determine the quality of our lives more than work, choose well, life is open, and the spring breeze is proud; if you choose badly, your life is cracked and riddled with holes. I hope that you can take a few steps in the key to life. This is very important.

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The pattern determines the outcome, not just looking at the future, losing the future

    A lot of cracking life is because the pattern is too small and the vision is too short. A while ago, a reader came to me to chat, 37 years old, the company's business is not good, cleaned up a group of people, he is also among them. When people reach middle age, they suddenly become unemployed people. This is not very good for anyone. But what makes him feel frustrated is that he doesn’t know what to do next. He doesn’t know what he can do. He is confused. ! In the end, he concluded that this does not blame others. He only blames himself for being too comfortable in these years. If he took the step, it may be completely different now. The step he said happened six years ago. At that time, one of his classmates called him out to do something, considering that the current work is relatively stable, although the industry is going downhill, but the unit is a listed company, it is impossible to say that it is down, and the risk of entrepreneurship is too great, so Did not come out. Nowadays, his friend's career is flourishing, and he has lost his job, and he regrets it.

    Telling the story of this reader, I am not encouraging everyone to start a business, but I hope everyone can understand that the ending of many things is caused by the pattern. Just like a businessman, he earns money in front of his eyes and sells fake goods. Although the profits are large, but not long-term, if you want to earn money for a long time, you must have quality assurance and credibility. Life is like this. If you do anything, just stare at your eyes, then you will suffer in the future, and if you look bigger, look farther, then you may be able to take this life. So, don't just look at the comfort in front of you, but forget the struggle and hard work; don't lose the bottom line and principle of being a person because of a little bit of interest... It's a long life, and the success of a moment is not worth showing off. Remember not to look at your eyes, but to lose In the future, this is a very uneconomical deal.

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Ability and mixing are important

    I have to admit that the world is not only about strength, but also about relations. The cooperation between many people, the exchanges between many companies, is not simply determined by strength and interests, but also the feelings, which is what we call "relationships." There is a friend who used to be the marketing director of a company. Later he came out to open an advertising company and developed well. Many of his company's business comes from the contacts and relationships accumulated over the years. He himself said that on the strength of the company, we are not the best, there is not much competitive advantage, but I am better than knowing who can make a decision. . Some people may feel disdain, but I tell you that it is also a kind of ability to operate interpersonal relationships, and the network is a kind of soft power. There is no shortage of hard-working people in this world, and there is no shortage of good people. Unless you really stand out from the crowd, you have to be more brilliant than others. Otherwise, it is a question worthy of consideration.

    Competence is important, but the ability to do things is also important. I am not teaching you to be sleek. I hope that you can look at socialization normally, and don't reject it, because many people have prejudice against it, and this kind of prejudice has made his life more cracks. In the animal world, it is full of weak meat, and in human society, such an ecology is also obvious and inevitable. Therefore, you must not only be strong, but also have more assistance. It is also an ability to do things for others, and this will sometimes have a decisive influence on our lives.

    If you feel anxious and want to change, but don't know how to change, I hope this article will help you a bit.

    Whether your life is ultimately open or cracked is what you choose to do and how to do it!